Why Showing Up Matters
“Showing up for myself meant saying ‘no’ to things that didn’t align with my goals, even if that meant disappointing others. The first time I chose myself over social pressure, I felt like I could conquer the world.”
- Jane, 35, Entrepreneur
Being fully present provides you with the opportunity to fully experience life, to form deeper connections, and to recognise opportunities you might otherwise miss.
1. Show Up For Yourself
Define Your Priorities
Make a list of what's genuinely important to you. Then prioritise these items and commit to them.
Set Boundaries
Learn to say no when you need to. Boundaries are essential in showing up for yourself because they let you focus on what genuinely matters.
2. Show Up in Relationships
"I always thought love meant grand gestures. But when I was going through a rough patch, my partner simply held my hand and listened. That's when I understood what showing up really meant."
- Emily, 42, Teacher
Be Fully Present
Put down the phone and give your full attention to the person you're with. ### Open CommunicationWhether it’s a friend, family member, or significant other, clear and open communication is crucial.
3. Show Up at Work
Bring Your Whole Self to Work
Allow yourself to bring your full personality, not just your 'work self,' to your job.
Foster Inclusivity
Show up for your colleagues by fostering an environment of inclusivity and respect.
4. Show Up in Your Community
"People always say they don't have the time to volunteer or get involved. When I finally made the time, not only did I help others, but I also found a new sense of purpose."
- Sarah, 28, Community Organiser
Volunteer
Giving back is an excellent way of showing up for your community, and it often provides a new sense of perspective.
Advocate
Don't underestimate the power of your voice. Advocate for issues that you're passionate about to make a meaningful difference.
5. The Power of Not Showing Up
“Once, I decided not to attend a networking event because I realised it clashed with my values. It was difficult, but that decision opened up room for opportunities that were more aligned with who I am.”
- Fiona, 31, Graphic Designer
Sometimes showing up means choosing not to engage in spaces that don't serve you or align with your values.
Actionable Steps
- Be Mindful: Before committing to anything, consider if it aligns with your values.
- Check-in: Regularly check-in with yourself and your loved ones.
- Be Consistent: Make it a habit to be present and engaged in all areas of your life.
Showing up is an art that requires attention, practice, and, most of all, a heartfelt desire to be present in your life and the lives of others. Start by showing up for yourself, and the ripple effect will reach every corner of your world.
Resources
The art of being yourself | Caroline McHugh | TEDxMiltonKeynesWomen
Be inspired and start showing up fully in your life today!